Sunday, August 6, 2017

Waitin’ on a Woman … the Girl in the Door

              Waitin’ on a Woman … the Girl in the Door

         Published in Marietta (GA) Daily Journal August 6 2017

            In the summer of 1965 six college guys and their supervisor walked across the grounds of a youth camp in northern Wisconsin.  Their supervisor, the camp director, had just said to them, “Would you like to go meet the girl counselors?”
            On this first day of camp, excited campers were getting settled in, admiring the camp that was nestled in beautiful woods 90 miles north of Green Bay.
            As we approached the girls’ dormitory, I saw a beautiful, college-age young woman standing in the door.  It was obvious she was a counselor since several “junior high” girls stood around her vying for her attention.
            We are now 20 yards from the door.  I know because I measured it on the last day of camp.  While my colleagues walked on, I stopped dead in my tracks.  Boy Scouts honor and hand on the Bible, three words bombed my very consciousness, shattering all reality except for the girl in the door, and rendering me a 6-foot-2, 194 pounds of mush.  The three words were “There she is.”
Yes, there she is, and now I can stop wondering why those nice high school girls and those hundreds of Dixie darlings at Southern Miss never interested me.  How could they not?  They were pretty, kind, mature, smart, fun, and … but it doesn’t matter now because there she is.
            Flashback.  I was old when I was young, overly serious in just about everything.  For instance, I started praying for the right girl to come into my life when I was 15.  Caring little for dating, I wanted God to parachute into my life the right girl so that we could get on with it.  Back to Wisconsin, was this now happening?
            That evening I learn that Nancy Milligan is from Murfreesboro, TN and is a senior at Middle Tennessee State.  I was a senior at Southern Miss.  She’s dairy cows; I was cotton and corn.  She’s an English major.  Me too.  Her parents are salt of the earth, steady as a rock country folks, unshaken by what life hands them, toughened by the Great Depression.  Mine too.
            Uh-oh, she’s been a delegate to the National 4-H Congress in Chicago.  This scares me a little.  She’s obviously smart and endowed with some special skills.  I’m a pretty ordinary guy.  But we’ll see.
            Murfreesboro, she says, is just 30 miles south of Nashville.  That excites me since I’ve never been to the Grand Ole Opry.  Maybe … no, that’s not smart figuring the Grand Ole Opry into a possible relationship.  Better keep things a little more elevated.  She might not even know who Minnie Pearl is.
            She milks cows, she says, and … carries butter to the bottom of a deep spring where it’s kept refrigerated?  Yikes !  I’ve wrung the necks of chickens in order to have fried chicken for supper, but taking butter down into what amounts to a cave in your back yard?  That’s not country; that’s primitive.  Makes me feel better about never having been a delegate to the National 4-H Congress.
            Her lips are wine-colored, but her parents wouldn’t want me to use the word “wine.”  Mine wouldn’t either.  Her eyebrows are exquisite and she seldom plucks them.  They’re just … that way.
            She has one brother and three sisters.  Boy, did she perk up when I told her I had six brothers and ten sisters, a fact that would give her mother pause when Nancy tells her about me.
            On the last day of camp, I muster the courage to get Nancy Milligan’s address.  Two states apart, two country kids couldn’t afford to visit each other very much.  That explains why our wedding two years later was only the tenth time we had seen each other.
            This month marks my 50th year of marriage to this Tennessee milkmaid.  She who could run the world.  She, a talented college graduate who stayed home to raise four children, who loves babies, old people, and life.  She whose children have risen up and called her bless’ed.
            For 50 years the greatest joy of my life has been watching as others also get to meet and know this girl in the door, watching as she has brightened the path of all who meet her.
            I knew I would meet her some day, knew I would wait as long as it took.  Not once during or since that Wisconsin summer has waitin’ on a woman bothered me.  Rather, it has reminded me that good things still come to those who wait.

Roger Hines

8/2/17

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